Growing up in this country, neighbors used to help one another. They would borrow farm tools from one another for a short period and then return if there was bereavement or some celebration. They would take some farm produce or even some shopping to those concerned; sometimes even an envelope (money) was slid.
Even widows would get assistance from neighbors, sometimes people would come together and put together some pennies for a widow to help pay some fees or even donate seeds and seedlings or one with vast land they would allow them a quarter to farm and keep or sell produce. All these were acts of generosity, kindness, politeness and genuine care. No one expected anything in return, other than the usual: reciprocation if one fell in need.
Today a lady offers friendship to a man when he is tarmacking and when the man does well. The lady wants to get married and enjoy the fruits of the Labour, another lady comes along and helps the man secure huge contracts, which transforms his standards of living and the lady wants to be a mistress or even worse insists the man to divorce and marry her.
The same goes for a man, who finds a needy student and helps pay their fees out of the goodness of the heart but they want sexual favour or even marriage. Another man helps a lady get a job, and they want an intimate reciprocation. At what juncture did we normalize kindness, generosity, politeness as a currency to lay or get laid? Can’t a ‘thank you’ be enough, or maybe a ‘thank you so much, God bless you?’
Could this be a ‘money problem’?